Monthly Archives: February 2012

Over a glass of wine, Kerry Meagher and her friends shared their successes. What a great way to build confidence and self-esteem—important ingredients when seeking new career opportunities. Here’s what Kerry writes.


Last summer, I had the opportunity to sit down with friends and peruse Judy’s recently published book Career Success in 12 Easy Steps | a Journal over a glass of wine. My friend began reading through the self-assessment portion of the book when she stumbled upon the question, “Have you ever experienced any of the following successes?” As she read through the list of successes…

  • Winning a game
  • Bringing estranged friends together
  • Coaching a team
  • Graduating with honors
  • Receiving an award, such as employee of the month, student of the month, most improved, or top performer
  • Representing my school, employer, town, or organization at an event
  • Rescuing a pet, person, building, neighborhood, or other entity
  • Serving as an elected officer

…my friends piped in with an example from their own lives.

One friend had brought estranged friends together, and we had all received awards of some type, even if they were only of the paper-plate variety. We also had an assortment of elected officials in our midst, thanks to college clubs and activities. However, the true assortment of our successes was shown as we shared how we had represented our schools. Two of us had participated in a mission trip to North Carolina where we built ramps for the elderly. Another played in the band and represented his high school in competitions across New York State, and another was on his high school’s swim team. Who knew a group in their early twenties could have experienced so many successes?

Now take a moment and go through the list for yourself. Which successes have you shared in? Any success that you have experienced counts! Even if it isn’t on the list, any time you have identified a problem and have then taken steps to overcome it, that counts as well!


Do you know someone who, in your eyes, is successful? He wins every game, has friends ever seeking his wise counsel, and is the go-to guy whenever a problem surface. She is the one selected to represent the school or the office, mediates among conflicting views, and always volunteers to do what’s needed. Like you, there are people I consider winners. Yet, they sell themselves short! In their own eyes, they have not yet arrived. They believe they are just not quite good enough. Somehow, they do not see themselves as successful.

How can we help our esteemed friends to see themselves in a more positive light? We can point out the contributions they make―often unbeknownst to them―that make a difference to us. “Tom, thank you for providing backup support on my project. As a result, I was able to get away for a much needed break.” “Sharon, I appreciate your effort arranging the event. I know it took time to find the perfect location, order the refreshments, send out notices, and greet attendees. With the details covered, I could focus on my presentation.”

Tom can feel good about his ability and willingness to back up a colleague, knowing that he supported someone’s wellness.Sharon can take pride in her attention to detail, knowing it contributed favorably to the overall event.

Now, how can we see ourselves as worthy, successful winners? We can pay attention when others say thank you and take their appreciation to heart. And, when a thank you is not forthcoming, we can still relish in the many ways―small and large― that we do our part, knowing it makes a difference somewhere, somehow, to someone.

Now, what have you done today that benefits another? Let us know, and we promise to shout, “Hurray for you!”